I’ve had great experiences with Tinder dating in the past, and decided to check out the online dating climate in LA. Joining me is local Budapest Tinder Expert, Tinder Tommie. Let me tell you now, the results between men vs women was completely different.

I always believe the key to being successful on Tinder is to have attractive photos and a punchy description. This is based on my own profile photo selection, and my experiences with other people’s profiles.

I set up my account, added a range of photos and my bio reads as “British Asian Basic Bitch – I like to take photos of my food, using hashtags in normal conversation and calling everyone bae.”

It seems like a fun, witty, short bio. Exactly the sort of thing I would appreciate finding on Tinder. I found great success instantly, clearly I’m more popular in Los Angeles than I am in Europe. After quite a few matches and super likes, I decided to check out how Tommie was doing.

Boy, do guys get it tough. In the time I managed to get 20 matches, Tommie got zero. Which isn’t to say we’re very different on levels of attractiveness.

Tommie decided to cheat and download an app called Flame that has an autolike function. At the touch of a button he can leave his phone to swipe right on every profile in LA. He said, “This really is destroying my self confidence. Let’s get some matches the easy way.”

500 likes later and he gets his first like, a 33 year old latina with the body of a yoga instructor and a less appealing face. But he’s finally off the mark.

The only real difference between us is that I’m a young asian girl, and he’s a normal white guy. I honestly didn’t think our success rates would be so far apart.

Tinder Social

We joined up to form a “Tinder Social” group, which means you and your friends can look for other groups to hang out with. Most social groups on the app seemed to consist of guys, and we wanted to find a group with guys and girls.

We matched with a few, but no plans were really made. That said our first message was “we’re not swingers! And we’re not a couple!” That may have put them off.

There was one group made up of 19 year olds who just wanted someone to buy them beer. One group looked promising – an actress and her friend – and we told them we would go to Santa Monica beach and try out some bars, and that they were free to join us for drinks.

We ended up going to Umami Burger just the two of us, in the hopes that by the time we finished other people would be ready to go out.

Pub social

On the way to the beach, I desperately needed the loo. We popped into an English themed pub. Not wanting to use the toilets for free, we also order one drink each. The pub is lovely though, and that’s just not my English spirit saying that. One drink turned into a few drinks, as we decided to wait there for tinder matches.

The pub also has a fantastic burlesque show every Monday night. Drinks and hot girls dancing is a fantastic way to spend your Monday evening in my opinion. Our Tinder Social group never showed up in the end. Tommie never got more than 4 matches out of over 1000 women he “liked” and he didn’t want to message any of them.

I finished the night with 26 super likes, and even a few potential dates for this week. It seems that Tinder is a girl’s game. What dating app is for guys then? Well we’re going to find out this week!

  • Jeremy Pivet

    I thought I was hideous after using it for a short amount of time, hence my briefly researching it. It really made me feel quite low despite never believing me to be that vain up until that point (some people have said I’m good looking in the past, others not so much, so I guess I’m an ‘acquired’ (or just average) taste). Getting absolutely ‘no’ matches felt a bit weird.

    There’s also the case of a bug that prevents a lot of matches coming up (apparently you need to unlink the app through Facebook after setting it up). Tinder only bothers into it when it’s affecting women, though, as there’s far more guys than women on there and they need to keep all the women they possibly can. The algorithms on there have become impossible for guys to do anything other than ‘mass like’ people. Then I heard people complaining about women being ‘too picky’ on there, but it’s not their fault, as they’re inundated with endless matches and it’s impossible not to be extremely picky.

    It was also the case that whenever I ‘super liked’ someone they super liked me back, which lead me to believe that only the super likes were showing up. I might go back to it, I dunno. Either way, tell your mate it’s definitely not him (as it can feel really rotten).

  • sacred

    Welcome to LA Tommie. If you want those likes I suggest to take some pictures with a cute little dog first. Second post some pictures of you with your friends having a great time doing something semi athletic. PS. Don’t have any pictures with any girls. Third… Somehow become a young 20 something, very attractive and from a semi wealthy family ( show of that car!) OK! You are all set for tinder in LA. Every one you meet will either like you for your dog pic or be looking for a “Fun” Saturday night. PS. You will be paying for it all ( remember that expensive car you are supposed to show off, means you have money and will pay for their good time) best of luck out there!

  • mirabilis76226

    Not just exclusive to Tinder, modern dating having online apps as main way to meet people has led to a way too casual setting and people seemingly discard relationships at the first opportunity of the next best thing. The above and below scenarios seen to be a common trend across most dating apps I’ve used, women have the pick of the crop and Men are like blood hounds hoping to grab whatever the ‘elite’ leave them. Even if you’re decent or good looking to most women, but not in that top 10-15% and you have never used dating apps before, prepare for a struggle to get any notice at all. Even that initial elation at actually getting a match doesn’t even happen anymore since generally the women are genuine but they lied about interests or the pictures are way outdated, are ‘just looking to have a chat’ or get an ego boost from having someone take an interest in them, or ‘Looking for something ‘fun’ to do with someone new, but only if all expenses paid’.

    Friends advice is always irritating as it’s usually along the lines of go out and pick someone up at a bar or club, which I do and is great for short term but not long term since interests and lifestyles generally don’t align well. Finding someone single (I know so many awesome women who are in LTRs that I would want to date in a second, the urge to dislike their partners for snagging them is high haha), that I’m attracted too, actually are willing to try for something long term and that are into at least some ‘geeky’ stuff is alot of effort. The best online dating app is probably OKC and I’ve had a few decent relationships from it since you can actually see interests and personality to a degree from how it’s set up. I’m single again now though and the struggle begins anew. Not just LA either, I’m currently in Melbourne, Australia… ¯_(ツ)_/¯