This week in the news everyone is talking about PewDiePie evicted from home after “gay sex” mistake, as well as how teenage boys feel about porn.

Whilst making one of his popular youtube videos, PewDiePie’s landlord mistook the noises coming from his room to be sounds of gay sex. In a statement PewDiePie states

“I made a video, landlord thought I was having gay sex. Next day evicted w/o previous notice,”

Most people would argue against the conviction, as it breaks quite a few laws. However PewDiePie decided that he didn’t want to live in the home of a homophobic landlord. His situation is also helped by the fact he’s financially stable enough to buy several homes at any point.

Full story here

Over half of teenage boys think sex portrayed in porn is real

I wanted to write about this article because it’s the type of article I hate the most. It attacks porn without evidence, and quite frankly, is lazy journalism. It’s also a topic I’ve covered a few times on social media.

A new study was published in the UK showing results of 53 percent of teenage boys and 39 percent of teenage girls, all ages 11 to 16, think sex portrayed in porn is real. It then goes further to find out 44 percent of boys and 29 percent of girls said porn gave them ideas for sex acts they want to try out.

The article warns that a lot of porn is “overly aggressive and misogynist” and mentions “I haven’t seen many actors in porn films discuss consent” which alludes to quite a few negative things that simply isn’t true with porn.

A lot of porn I have watched includes an interview with the girls at the start, or a short interview at the end. I know for a fact that most of the harder BDSM websites such as kink.com put them there to show that the acts are completely consensual.

Porn is also only misygnist if that’s what you chose for it to be. I don’t think any other industry can beat porn for the amount of diversity and inclusion it has. There’s normal porn, gay porn, trans-porn, interracial porn and the list if basically endless. If the author is so against misogyny they should try watching a bit of femdom.

I also want to point out that women have orgasms in porn. I can’t remember the last time I watched a porno where the girl didn’t cum. People want to see the girl cum. How is showing women having pleasure misogynist? It’s certainly not unrealistic. Female orgasms aren’t a myth, and if porn makes people think “yeah, women should be orgasming” then that’s a good thing.

Do you believe porn gives people unrealistic expectations of sex? If by unrealistic they mean sex that involves more than just the missionary position. Or if by unrealistic they mean sex where two adults are able to try out their fantasies without being worried of judgement. If by unrealistic they mean the woman having an orgasm.

Sex in porn isn’t fictional sex. There isn’t a fictional penis going into a fictional vagina. It’s true that if you deliver pizza to a girl’s slumber party, you probably won’t be invited into an orgy. But it is true that if young boys and girls are looking to porn as of getting answers to their questions about sex, their education from school and their parents isn’t good enough.

Original article here

Honorable mentions

Utah’s first ‘porn dog’ can detect electronic storage devices

Pornhub now offers porn for visually impaired

 

  • NeilW

    Pewdiepie – I’ve never heard of this chap, but he seems to be OK about it, so this is really about should the landlord be allowed to get away with it. No, he shouldn’t (he may have a valid complaint about noise, which is another matter), but it’s Pewdiepie’s decision whether to do anything about it, and he’s decided not.

    Teenage porn expectations – I understand the thrust of some aspects of the article you dislike. Teenagers are impressionable, porn features real sex, and the two together may mean that teenagers don’t fully take on board the extent to which so much of porn is high-gloss performance. I suspect that the number of female orgasms in porn is a mere fraction of what the industry would have you believe. Undoubtedly there are some real ones (sometimes the physical signs can’t be faked), but I doubt it’s that many. But an orgasm – real or faked – is usually included because, as you say, it is wanted: it is the payoff for the consumer. But this is a huge discussion area, and a reason why I really wish you had a discussion forum on HSC.com. I do agree that showing pleasure is great, but I also feel that the misogyny argument has some validity – there is far too much porn which features women being ill-treated.

    I understand your position as a committed pro-porn consumer and performer, but I don’t think all porn is produced with the same sense of personal commitment. Call me a cynical old sod if you will.

    Porn dog – well good luck to him on finding drives with kiddie porn, drugs, terrorism info etc. The fact that he has been dubbed “Porn dog” says more about those who did the dubbing than anything else.

    Pornhub audio porn for the visually challenged – hooray for this, and good for them..

    • Chris

      “I understand your position as a committed pro-porn consumer and
      performer, but I don’t think all porn is produced with the same sense of
      personal commitment. Call me a cynical old sod if you will.”

      I agree, and it worries me that guys (and girls) might be picking up certain attitudes from porn. For example, too many guys seem to take no as a yes, while yes means anal. Girlfriends are often expected to perform acts they don’t want to, and consent is too often assumed.

      It’s not so much that the sex itself is no realistic, but the way and situations it’s portrayed in which raises concerns. I completely agree sex education badly needs to be improved, but I believe certain aspects of the porn industry need to change as well.

      • NeilW

        “Girlfriends are often expected to perform acts they don’t want to”

        You sometimes see this in porn, too. Sometimes the girl simply can’t act her way past the discomfort of, and unhappiness at, what she’s doing. Yes, she’s doing it voluntarily, but she really isn’t enjoying it. “I’m doing something I really don’t want to do and I’m only doing it because I’m getting paid for it,” isn’t a basis for any porn I’m going to enjoy.

        But I fear it will deliver a message to some young consumers.

        • Harriet Sugarcookie

          It’s not the sort of porn you enjoy, but that doesn’t mean the girl is actually uncomfortable.

          I want to point out that in Japanese porn, the girls always seem to look discomforted, and make noises that we in the west might consider “struggling” noises. Whilst in Japan this is considered very normal, and is seen in personal sexual relations.

          Just because we don’t understand it, doesn’t mean we should jump to the worst case scenario.

          • NeilW

            I appreciate that there is a distinction between simulated discomfort and actual discomfort, and I understand that much of the porn which accesses humiliation/bondage/S&M areas is voluntarily and happily entered into by performers, and more power to their elbows (and other bits).

            And some porn performers are really good actors. A really well acted orgasm, for instance, can be quite convincing. Conversely, some porn performers are not so good, and a poorly performed “orgasm” doesn’t convince at all.

            Occasionally I will encounter a sequence where the performer appears to be genuinely in a place they would prefer not to be. Is this simply superb acting? Maybe, although some comments from performers who have left the industry (who admittedly may have axes to grind) might suggest otherwise.

            I appreciate the Japanese cultural thing and that there is an element of domination, submission and occasional humiliation built into their sexual culture. I also make big efforts (largely thanks to you) to be non-judgemental in respect of those areas of porn which don’t do much for me personally.

            And I STRONGLY believe that porn at its most constructive is a force for good.

            That doesn’t mean that there are no negatives nesting in its lower reaches somewhere.

            There are a lot of “mays” and “mights” in here, aren’t there? Nearly as many as in a Referendum discussion! (backs away hastily!)

      • Harriet Sugarcookie

        I understand that people have different views.

        Personally I believe that porn is no more responsible for teaching people to rape, than videogames teaching people it’s ok to steal cars and go around shooting people.

        • NeilW

          I have some sympathy with this, but there is a distinction in that porn is real sexual activity with real people, and Grand Theft Auto isn’t. I suspect that makes a difference to some especially impressionable individuals.
          Which means that porn should make a bigger effort to educate.

          • Harriet Sugarcookie

            Hannibal has a man eating people, and the narrative gets us to *like* him – but no one thinks it actually ok to eat people.

            House gets his doctors to break and enter into patients homes – we still think breaking and entering is wrong.

            Twilight shows a 70 year old man watching a 18 year old girl sleep every night… oh wait people hate that one.

          • NeilW

            All fair points (oh the frustration of arguing in bite-sized chunks). Again I offer a distinction – these are all offered as fiction, porn tends to be offered as quasi-factual wish-fulfilment.

            I’m not saying you’re wrong – far from it, and I wouldn’t be here on your site if I believed you were – but I think there might be a bit more grey and a bit less black and white than you’re allowing for.

            Hadn’t really thought about the actual age difference in Twilight. Even creepier now, and not in a good way. Old men shouldn’t find cute young nubiles attractive. Ok, wait…

        • Chris

          Hey Harriet,

          Just in case I haven’t been clear, I’m not an anti-porn crusader. But I do believe the industry needs some regulation beyond the stuff we can all agree on like banning child and revenge porn. I’ve seen the way some porn has negatively influenced the attitudes of people around me (younger guys especially), and I think sex education can only counter this up to a point. For example, most of the porn I’ve seen which has anal in it are showing the girl/s really enjoying it, and all too happy to give the guy a blowjob afterwards. Some guys get the impression this is normal, when in reality, most girls aren’t into it at all, and in the porno the girl has been preparing for the scene for quite some time before the fella pops it in. We could also talk about unrealistic (and uncomfortable) sex positions for the camera.

          I want to see more porn which is realistic and portrays women as equals, not just sluts begging for the money shot.

          I recently saw a documentary about how porn is influencing high schoolers in the UK. Of course they shouldn’t be watching it, but it’s impossible to stop them. It did raise some valid concerns.

    • Harriet Sugarcookie

      Do you believe that porn should show less female orgasms? Wouldn’t it be worse to show a scene where the guy orgasms but the girl doesn’t? It might be more true to life, but I personally think the message that “Girls don’t need to orgasm” is much worse.

      I would rather a guy comes into sex think a girl should orgasm, and so puts in the work to achieve that, than think it’s totally ok for him to find pleasure himself and not worry whether his partner comes to climax or not. Call me selfish.

      • NeilW

        Not at all – I like female orgasms. No, I LOVE female orgasms, they are the thing in porn which I enjoy most. I absolutely agree 1000% with what you say here, and I would prefer to see a faked orgasm than no orgasm (although I prefer to see real orgasms, with that lovely flush down the neck, shoulders and chest). Her pleasure should come before his, in my view.